Saturday, March 26, 2016

SPICE IT UP - THE PRESERVATIVE SPICE

2. The spice that preserves marriage is OPENNESS / TRUTHFULNESS.


Ephesians 4:15, 15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ. Nothing preserves the bond of unity in marriage like truthfulness. It is always better to relate in an open manner and to tell the truth at all times, no matter what. I have had couples ask how much they should let their spouses in on regarding their lives, especially their past. A simple guide will be that whatever your spouse will find out later and be disappointed that you did not tell them, then it is better that you tell them now. Let them find out from you! 

Gen. 2:25 says that both Adam and Eve were naked ( open and vulnerable ) without being ashamed. Come to think of it, if you need to cover it up from your spouse, then you have no business engaging in it in the first place! Maybe you fear your spouse's reaction now if you open up to them. Well, what is the alternative to that? Imagine that they eventually find out, which they will, will their reaction not be worse then?

A word to spouses who are being told the truth. Please be gracious in your response to the truth you are being told. Note that I used the word 'response' not 'reaction.' Be gracious, especially because your spouse chose to be open with you. Avoid flipping your lid and causing chaos, or that will be the last time you hear the truth from your spouse. Also, please note that speaking the truth in love is what the Bible commands. Someone said " Love without truth is hypocrisy; but truth without love is brutality!"

Speak the truth, yes but do not be brutal about it. Do it in love.

...to be continued tomorrow

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