Was pondering on the increasing spate of broken relationships among christian singles these days and one dimension struck my heart.
Apart from the very obvious reasons like wrong foundations, immaturity etc. it does appear as if many singles do not even know what they want for themselves!!!Ask any single person what they are aspiring for in a potential mate as well as in marriage generally and they'll just go on about some vague generalities like "God-fearing", "hard-working" and so on.
"So what's wrong with that?" you may be wondering. Well, its not that those qualities are undesirable; its that they are not 'person-specific' enough. They are too general, even though they are good in themselves.
My point is, if you have done your homework well on yourself taking into consideration where you have been (upbringing, temperament, exposure, educational backgrond, spiritual development etc), where you are at ( values, strengths, weaknesses, needs, capacity etc), as well as where you're heading (purpose, assignment,dreams , vision, plans etc), you will be able to articulate in clearer terms what it is you are looking for in a mate.
Got it?
Well, watch this page for more on this later.
For now though, let me know what you all think.
Blessings!
Thanks a lot mum. I can really identify with this, especially the bit about knowing where you're heading in life. Until I discovered my purpose, I did not have the moral courage to approach my fiance for a relationship. That discovery gave me such an audacity. She was simply dumbfounded when I asked her out!
ReplyDeleteThanks mummy - its like having you 24 / 7 - great idea! Just wish they'd come more often - just so am always in touch. Big hug!
ReplyDeleteThanks mummy, its really like having you 24 / 7 - great idea! Just wish though that it would come in more often so I can keep in touch. Love you and big hug!
ReplyDeleteThanks mummy, its really like having you 24 / 7 - great idea! Just wish though that it would come in more often so I can keep in touch. Love you and big hug!
ReplyDeleteMum,it is my desire,prayer and belief that all youths and aspiring couples would take great advantage of the deposits of GOD in you which some of us are privileged to enjoy. Your advise and encouragement especially to the singles and married is priceless.
ReplyDeleteBen
Ma,
ReplyDeleteGod bless you soooo much. This year at WOFBI March Special 2011, i was thoroughly blessed by your teaching on Family life. My eyes were opened and i learnt so much from you. Please do consider having a singles seminar for us singles, especially us women. We need to know more about how to prepare ourselves for our God and then for our mates. Thank you mummy, I'm blessed to have been able to sit at the feet of Jesus and have Him speak to me through you.
Thanks mummy for opening my eyes of understanding in the area of Where you are at. Most at times people tends to get at us with where we have been. Remain ever bless
ReplyDelete