SPICE IT UP - THE SPICE THAT PREVENTS DECAY

6. The spice that prevents decay in marriage is RIGHT WORDS/COMPLIMENTS.

Words! 

They can build up or tear down at the snap of a finger! Many marriages have been ruined by wrong words or words spoken wrongly, at the wrong place at the wrong time or with the wrong tone of voice. Conversely, many marriages have survived and are thriving against all odds because of right words spoken the right way and at the right time. If your marriage must remain vibrant and not be boring, then you need to be generous with your compliments of your spouse. 

Consciously.

Deliberately.

Ceaselessly. 

Ephesians 4:29, 29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Focus on your spouses' positive traits. What you focus on and keep talking about, will receive life from your words and get better. Make it your goal to compliment your spouse at least once a day. Choose to focus on their positive side. Acknowledge when they do something right, do something well or even something that is their 'responsibility' like cooking a meal or paying bills. Compliment their looks, their new hair do ( men, did you hear that ? Lol!), their hard work ( women, got that? Lol!) etc.

In other words, water your spouse daily! It is easy to find fault and criticize; anyone can do that!  Someone said ' rudeness is a weak person's imitation of strength!' Oh how true! When you are being rude and disrespectful, you are showcasing your weakness and insecurity! But it takes real people to put aside how they feel and to genuinely pay attention to their spouse's strong points. But it takes real people to put aside how they feel and to genuinely pay attention to their spouse's strong points.

May I add quickly that I am not referring to flattery here; you know, saying what you do not mean with the intention of manipulating the other person or subtly twisting their arm in order to get what you want. That is selfish and so ungodly. I challenge you to speak life to your spouse from today. Maybe you are wondering what to do because your spouse is so undeserving of right words from you. Well, 'call the things that be not as though they were,' and then leave the rest to God.