6. The spice that prevents decay in marriage is
RIGHT WORDS/COMPLIMENTS.
Words!
They can build up or tear down at the snap of a finger! Many
marriages have been ruined by wrong words or words spoken wrongly, at the wrong
place at the wrong time or with the wrong tone of voice. Conversely, many marriages have survived and are thriving
against all odds because of right words spoken the right way and at the right
time. If your marriage must remain vibrant and not be boring, then you
need to be generous with your compliments of your spouse.
Consciously.
Deliberately.
Ceaselessly.
Ephesians 4:29, 29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. Focus on your spouses' positive traits. What you focus on and keep talking about, will receive life from your words and get better. Make it your goal to compliment your spouse at least once a day. Choose to focus on their positive side. Acknowledge when they do something right, do something well or even something that is their 'responsibility' like cooking a meal or paying bills. Compliment their looks, their new hair do ( men, did you hear that ? Lol!), their hard work ( women, got that? Lol!) etc.
In other words, water your spouse daily! It is easy to find fault and criticize; anyone can do that!
Someone said ' rudeness is a weak person's imitation of strength!' Oh how
true! When you are being rude and disrespectful, you are showcasing your
weakness and insecurity! But it takes real people to put aside how they feel and to
genuinely pay attention to their spouse's strong points. But it takes real people to put aside how they feel and to
genuinely pay attention to their spouse's strong points.
May I add quickly that I am not referring to flattery here; you
know, saying what you do not mean with the intention of manipulating the other
person or subtly twisting their arm in order to get what you want. That is
selfish and so ungodly. I challenge you to speak life to your spouse from today. Maybe
you are wondering what to do because your spouse is so undeserving of right
words from you. Well, 'call the things that be not as though they were,' and
then leave the rest to God.
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